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Mediator: How are you two doing?<\/p>\n
Both answer me in unison: “Yes, we’re getting used to it!<\/p>\n
Mediator: According to my notes, there are still a few subjects to discuss, including alimony.
\nShall we start with that or would you prefer another topic? <\/p>\n
Mari\u00e8ve immediately replies that alimony is a necessity.
\nShe can’t afford it and is going into debt.
\nAlex immediately replies that she’s not the one who had to buy everything new to furnish her apartment: “Do you know how much it costs to furnish a 5 1\/2?”. <\/p>\n
I ask them if they want to discuss alimony or the financial aspects as spouses and co-owners.
\nMari\u00e8ve says she prefers to discuss alimony, since Julia is the priority.
\nShe adds that she has brought her tax returns and her last three pay stubs. <\/p>\n
I ask her to show them to Alex and explain what she earned last year and what she plans to earn this year.
\nMari\u00e8ve informs Alex that there won’t be any big surprises on this front, as she intends to keep the same job.
\nHer salary is estimated to be the same as the last two years, i.e. $42,000.
\nHer pay slips confirm that this amount is realistic for the current year. <\/p>\n
Mediator: Is this your gross or net salary?<\/p>\n
Mari\u00e8ve: Gross.
\nYou can see it on line 199. <\/p>\n
I ask a few additional questions related to his job: are there any benefits?
\npossible overtime?
\nunion dues?
\nunion dues? etc. <\/p>\n
Then I turn to Alex and ask him to inform Mari\u00e8ve.<\/p>\n
Alex: I don’t want you to think I don’t want to pay for my daughter, but I just can’t afford it.<\/p>\n
Mari\u00e8ve: That’s not the question Alex!
\nDidn’t you bring anything? <\/p>\n
Alex: I couldn’t find it.
\nAnyway, it’s always me who pays.
\nI’m financially strangled; it’s not just you who finds it hard.
\nBesides, I don’t have my parents’ financial support like you do – you know that. <\/p>\n
Mediator: How about some scenarios?
\nCould that give you an idea of the alimony?
\nThen you could each look at your budget? <\/p>\n
Since both are open to this proposal, I’m collecting the following information:<\/p>\n
Mari\u00e8ve: $42,000 gross salary<\/p>\n
Alex: $60,000 or $75,000 gross salary, $800 union dues (deductible)<\/p>\n
1 minor child in 43% shared custody with Alex (Monday evening to Sunday evening, every other week = Alex’s request) or in 29% sole custody with extended outing rights with Alex (Thursday evening to Monday morning, every other week = Mari\u00e8ve’s request)<\/p>\n
By entering these and other additional details, the software is able to calculate the monthly alimony to be paid:<\/p>\n
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Alex: I have to admit I’m a bit lost with all the scenarios.<\/p>\n
Mari\u00e8ve: Can we bring them?
\nI’d like to look at them with my own calculations.
\nIt doesn’t seem like much for all of Julia’s expenses. <\/p>\n
Mediator: Remember that alimony only calculates the nine basic needs.
\nSpecial needs and certain other expenses will have to be discussed separately.
\nI’ll put it on my list for the next session? <\/p>\n
On a mixed “yes” with a shared sigh from the parents, I leave them with a copy of the scenarios as well as a document explaining child support and its nine basic needs.
\nThe legal information on other expenses and their possible breakdown according to the custody arrangement chosen (shared or sole custody) is also given to the parents.
\nThey agree to read it before the next session.
\nAlex agrees to bring his last three pay stubs.
\nFinally, each parent receives a sample budget to complete. <\/p>\n
Mediator : The budget is particularly important and interesting.
\nYou may be surprised to see how much each of you is already spending on Julia’s behalf.
\nIn addition, there’s bound to be some reorganization on the financial side, which I think will be a useful exercise for you. <\/p>\n
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