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Mediator: Then, how did the week go?<\/p>\n
Mari\u00e8ve quickly answers “badly” and goes on to explain that Alex didn’t return Julia’s call until 10 p.m. on Sunday evening.
\nAlex explains: “We were at the restaurant and I didn’t notice the time. Julia was so happy. If you’d agreed to let me keep her asleep too.” <\/p>\n
Mari\u00e8ve replies, “It’s not up to you to change the schedule! We had an agreement Alex.”<\/p>\n
Mediator: You had decided on 8 a.m. to 7 p.m..
\nDoes this schedule still work for you? <\/p>\n
Alex: “Well yes and no. I want more.” Mari\u00e8ve replies, “How can I trust you, Alex? You had one evening, and then you didn’t even respect it.”<\/p>\n
Alex: “7 p.m. is fine. If we agree on a schedule that will allow me to see Julia more often, I have no problem sticking to it.”<\/p>\n
Mediator: In fact, the aim of the discussions is to reach an agreement that will be respected.
\nIf we don’t have a decision, we’ll keep talking.
\nIf you have other options, I want to hear them too.
\nYou’ll have to live with the schedule and respect it. <\/p>\n
I then explain to the parents that they could start by determining the “regular” schedule, i.e. the one they’ll follow in the vast majority of weeks.
\nThey can then agree on special access times, such as vacations at work, special outings, summer vacations and so on. <\/p>\n
Mari\u00e8ve and Alex use a monthly calendar to find a way of sharing their time that is balanced for the child, while respecting their professional schedules.
\nWorking on a monthly basis allows them to visualize the time-sharing.
\nFor my part, it allows me to calculate the childcare arrangement.
\nI inform the parents: <\/p>\n
Julia has sole custody of Mari\u00e8ve if she spends 20% or less of her time with Alex (about 5 days out of 30).<\/p>\n
Julia has sole custody with Mari\u00e8ve, with extended outing rights with Alex if she spends between 20% and 40% of her time with Alex (i.e. between 6 and 12 days out of 30).<\/p>\n
Julia has joint custody with both parents if she spends more than 40% of her time with Alex (i.e. 13 days out of 30 days).<\/p>\n
Determining the custody arrangement will be useful when parents discuss child support and other expenses.<\/p>\n
Mediator: For next week, I’d like you each to take a calendar with you so that we can draw up a proposal for a regular schedule.
\nI’d also like you to add any special accesses you’d like to deal with. <\/p>\n
Mari\u00e8ve asks, “I don’t mind doing the work, but what if Alex doesn’t respect the agreement?
\nAlex replies, “You’re worrying about nothing. I’m going to stick to a schedule that gives me time just for my daughter. I’m worried too, you’ll know.” <\/p>\n
Mediator: Are you worried?<\/p>\n
Alex tells me that if he doesn’t have joint custody, he’s afraid Mari\u00e8ve will decide everything without him.<\/p>\n
Mediator: What you’re referring to is parental authority.
\nThese are the decisions that both parents make together in the interests of their child, regardless of the custody arrangement.
\nIt’s a vast subject, encompassing a multitude of important issues such as education, religion, child care, daycare, travel and so on.
\nWe’ll be discussing this at our next meeting – and believe me, it will certainly take a whole meeting.
\nSo I suggest that you come back to me next week with the “homework” of calendars, and that we discuss your shared responsibilities and parenting authority at that time. <\/p>\n
What you need to understand:<\/p>\n
Determining a custody schedule following a separation can be more complex than you might think.
\nThe child’s rhythm must be taken into account, as well as his or her need to maintain regular contact with both parents – while juggling each parent’s professional schedule.
\nThe mediator thus establishes a framework for discussion within which the parents must find solutions. <\/p>\n
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